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Women Can Have It All - With A Little help!

Posted by maureen

February 6, 2007 |

I think that women can have their cake and eat it. As a grandmother, I feel very lucky to have been able to spend time at home with my children and to have a career. Years ago woman did not work outside the home and most did not think of it as an option. Today we have choices but having these choices also means having to make some tough decisions. There is so much discussion on whether woman should work or stay at home after they have children that it is easy to loose sight of the reality. There is no right or wrong answer. Children thrive on love and attention that both stay at home moms and working moms can provide. For many women today it is a lifestyle choice instead of an economic choice. Therefore, the bigger question is what do you and your partner want to do and what compromises are you prepared to make to it to ensure that it works. You both need to agree and discuss all the repercussions thoroughly before making this decision. Whatever you decide I can guarantee there will be some compromises and you have to know that you are doing the right thing for you and the family .Your decision, like mine, might also include spending time at home and returning to the work force after a few years. No matter which path you take, you will need each other’s support to make it work. It is gratifying to see that, although my daughter and three daughters in law have chosen different solutions, that they all have healthy, happy, well-adjusted children.

Advantages of Staying Home.
You will get to see and hear all the “firsts” (smile, first step,)
You ensure that they are guided by your values and morals early in life.
Feeling of fulfillment.
It can be the most rewarding career you will ever have.
None of the quilt feeling at having to leave your child each day.
Being there for all the important events.

Disadvantages of Staying Home.
You can feel a loss of identity and self esteem when you no longer work.
Changing diapers and continuous loads of laundry can be boring and frustrating.
No time for yourself.
Feeling less appreciated at home than they did at work.
Loss of income.

Advantages of Working.
The additional income.
Children are often more independent.
Self fulfillment.
Having a rewarding job makes a happier person.

Disadvantages of Working.
Missing all your child’s “first”
The emotional stress of leaving a crying child.
Conflicting feelings: wanting to be with the child but not be able to.
Worrying if their child is being adequately cared for.
Missing important events.

No matter what you decide you will need the help and loving support of your spouse to make it work!


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  1. Garry on February 8, 2007 11:07 am

    It will be interesting to see what the trend of the next generation of women will be. I wouldn’t be that surprised to see a return to a previous generation

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